Losing someone we love so deeply is something nobody ever wants to have to go through but the thing about death is that it is inevitable. Unfortunately, some are taken sooner than others and we wonder why it had to be them.
They pass away and we struggle with the fact that we will never physically see them again here on this earth. We go to their house, pack up their things and we battle ourselves with what to keep and what to throw away. We want to hold on to every little thing they’ve ever touched, even if it was something so small.
Although I will never stop missing my mom who passed away a little over 10 years ago, here are some ways I’ve coped with my grief and I hope this helps you.
Sit With Your Grief
As hard as it can be, we must acknowledge our grief and accept it for what it is. Often we try to suppress our feelings or rush through the grieving process because it's too painful to bear. Grief is a natural response to loss and allowing yourself to feel it is SO important for healing. Give yourself permission to grieve and understand that it's okay to feel sadness, anger, confusion, and other emotions that you don’t yet understand.
Don’t Hesitate To Look For Support
Grief can be very lonely but I want you to know that you are not alone on your journey. Reach out to friends, family, or a find a good support group that you feel comfortable in. Sharing your feelings and experiences with others who have gone through similar situations can be so incredibly healing. Don't hesitate to lean on your support when you need to. It's OKAY to ask for help.
Find YOUR Outlet
Finding ways to express your emotions can be SO powerful. Writing in a journal, creating art, or engaging in physical activities. Find a method of that resonates with you and use it as your outlet.
My mom passed away in 2013. She was 48 years old. After she died I decided to write my feeling down which in turn lead to the start of my grief blog and my book Life Goes On..? Writing has been such a huge part of my healing journey and I am not sure how I would have made it through without it.
Take Care Of YOU
Grieving takes a toll on your physical and emotional well-being so it's crucial to TAKE CARE OF YOU. Make it a point to make sure you're eating well, getting enough sleep, and engaging in things that bring YOU happiness. Be gentle with yourself and recognize that healing is a process and takes time.
Let Grief Teach You
Grief, although painful, can teach us so much about ourselves. It can deepen your understanding of life, resilience, and the importance of cherishing moments with loved ones while they are here. As you heal, try to embrace what grief has taught you and use it as fuel to continue on and live your best life, for your lost loved one.
Overcoming grief is a journey. I won’t sit here and tell you it’s an easy one but it is possible to love a good life after losing someone we loved so deeply. Grief looks different for everybody and don't EVER let anybody tell you otherwise. There is no set timeline, not right or wrong way and healing yourself doesn't mean that you’re leaving your lost loved one in the past or forgetting about them. It means finding a way to live creatively with your bruised and broken heart.
Remember that you are not alone on this journey, and that even through the darkest of days.. life does in fact go on.